Differences in my viewpoint: To-do list - you've to work on them and you'll not be efficient if you pile them up & Wish list - you can pile them and if you work for it, you'll be more effective in what you do!
The 'Influence' of Good & Bad will always be there around 'You' either you are alone or in groups but Good or Bad gets the 'Power' to influence based on the side you take!
'Leading the way' is not about standing out as a leader in-front of the team but leaving the way in-front, showing the way ahead to explore and walking along with your team to 'Success'